Every once in a while I get writer’s block. It’s frustrating. I know I have something to say but I feel like I’m not saying anything new. Sometimes I try writing on paper instead of my laptop. It doesn’t always work. Then I remind myself that it’s the story that’s interesting to you, those little life lessons to help you be a better you.
And the story has become interesting. At least, I like to think so. It goes like this – girl has sales jobs for 16 years, gets laid off from corporate sales job, tries finding new corporate job – with no luck and starts to contemplate, what next? All the while, in the background, struggling with her finances and an insatiable need for stuff, which only turns out to be the wrong way to find meaning in life. Then girl learns you don’t find meaning in stuff. And here I am.
6 Life Lessons I’ve Learned The Hard Way
What this post is really about are all the lessons I’ve learned along the way – both financially and what’s the right word here…spiritually.
Lesson 1 – Stuff won’t buy you happiness or friends. Thankfully, I learned this in my late 20’s – anyone you have to buy is NOT a friend of any kind. Happiness is found within and created by you.
Lesson 2 – Always, always, always save for that rainy day. It always comes. Whether it’s job loss or illness, it’s best to be prepared. Don’t be silly and forget to save. Whether it’s a downpour or a light shower, an emergency fund is the umbrella that will keep you dry and stress free.
Lesson 3 – Don’t live paycheck to paycheck. If you do, at the end of a 16-year career in sales, you’ll look at your RRSP savings and say, that’s it? That’s the ROI from a 16-year career? Oh dear. That’s not good. That’s when regret kicks in and you have to swiftly squash those thoughts and remember to live in the present. Oh, and avoid that pesky thing called Lifestyle Inflation, it’s never your friend.
Lesson 4 – Live in the moment. No, this is not a ticket to YOLO. It’s a friendly reminder to stay in the present moment, to enjoy said moment and keep the rear view as a reminder to not make the same mistake twice. Don’t miss out on the beauty around you. Stop to just breathe. Don’t rush through life. And remember, the future is never set. Take a note from the Terminator – no fate but what we make. I’m a movie buff, remember? 😉
Lesson 5 – Check your finances no more than once a day (preferably only once a week). It’s kind of like social media, check it too much and you’ll miss out on life and/or have an anxiety attack. Rebalance your portfolio only twice a year. Stay in it for the long haul. Never panic.
Lesson 6 – Because five is overdone and everyone ignores six. Seriously though, Be Grateful. For it all – that you have a paycheck, an emergency fund no matter the size, and awesome friends and family you can lean on.
There you have it, six neat and tidy life lessons I’ve learned over the years. It’s taken me time to religiously put them into practice but for the most part, they have become regular staples in my life. As with any habit, they take time to grow and nurture. I often wonder whether it requires a certain amount of “soul” readiness. Meaning of course, that your mind and body are ready to take on that way of thinking.
I do believe it’s only fitting to finish with my fave Vlogger, Casey Neistat, and his take on jobs and motivation. After all, this post started out with me discussing my career and I believe 100% in what he says. If you’re no longer learning, growing and otherwise progressing, it’s time to find something new.
“If you’re still working for me in two years, you’re doing something wrong. Meaning, you should have taken everything there is to learn from this position and moved on by now.”
“At your job you should always be asking yourself, am I learning new things, am I increasing my value and if the answer is no, work harder and find that opportunity or maybe find a new job.”
If you’re pressed for time, watch from 1:19 to 4:25.
Time for a Casey Neistat moment – jobs, motivation