I didn’t want it to happen but it did. I had a meltdown on Saturday. My thoughts got the best of me and the tears just started flowing. The tears progressed to all out sobbing. I always try to stop myself from crying, as if its some horrible fault to break into tears sitting alone in your living room. At first, I felt shame for sitting alone crying. I’m always super hard on myself.
Then, a miraculous thing happened, I cut myself some slack. I showed myself some compassion.
A little voice in my head said, “It’s okay to cry sometimes. Everyone needs a good cry. It’s okay, just have a good cry and you’ll feel better. Just let it out. Everything will be okay.” I sobbed harder for a few minutes, and then it stopped.
How did I get to meltdown stage? Well, it’s a few things.
It was the culmination of starting a new part-time job, going through long hours of training, putting a lot of energy into my own biz/freelance career and coming down from what had to be the most amazing trip I’ve ever been on.
It’s hard – trying to make a different life for yourself. You feel like a beginner all over again. When you’re launching a new career/business, your mind is filled with “How, how, how” 90% of the time. It can become a roadblock to taking action. You feel as though you’re spinning your wheels getting nowhere. You overwhelm yourself with thoughts that you should be doing more when you’re already going gangbusters giving your all.
It’s at these times of extreme pressure that diet and exercise routines go out the window, social media binges take over, and the comparing starts. When I start comparing, I get a little depressed, and before I know it, I forget my why in life and spiral into a wet, soggy, crying mess.
And that’s the perfect time to stop. Simply stop. Turn off the phone. Stop drinking too much coffee, wine, and eating too many sweets. If you don’t stop, well, it doesn’t end well.
In our crazy, constantly on world, there’s a need for self-care to be slotted into our schedule to ensure we remain happy and productive. We may say we don’t have time for it, but we have to make time for it. Otherwise, meltdowns ensue and spirals into deep depression occur.
Your soul will start aching for me time.
The first step in any self-care routine is to show yourself some compassion. For years, I was hard on myself, working myself to the point of stress and burnout not thinking I was worthy of “me time.” The best thing you can do is cut yourself a break. Realize that without adequate sleep, exercise and time doing activities you’re passionate about; you’ll come crashing to a halt and have a meltdown of some kind or the other. Repeat after me: I AM WORTHY and I AM ENOUGH. Those two statements work wonders. You deserve down time.
Second, find something that helps you unwind and nourishes your soul. Preferably a something that’s not too extravagant. The goal is not to blow away your budget.
10 Self-Care Ideas That I Use to De-Stress and Be Mindful.
- Curl up with a cup of tea and your fave book. (Note: Fiction is best to keep from overthinking. I love Austen or any kind of romance from Nora Roberts or Johanna Lindsey.)
- Lie on the floor, focus on your breath, and listen to soothing music with your eyes closed. (I love doing this. It makes me feel grounded.)
- Light a candle and simply stare into the flame. Believe me, this works. It’s another way that I meditate.
- Take a long, hot bath with Epsom salts or bubble bath. Bonus points for turning off the lights and having a few candles around.
- Feeling the need to be girly? Paint your nails, toes and curl your hair. Just for the heck of it.
- Drive somewhere you haven’t been in a while and simply sit. Or walk. Your choice. And don’t Instagram a thing. No social media!
- Sit on a rock (or bench) outside with your fave Moleskine and write whatever comes to mind.
- Have an Artists Date. Go to an art gallery, get crafty, or snap some photos. I can get lost for hours snapping photos of the outdoors, or even staging photos at home.
- Dance around like a maniac to your fave songs. My faves? Can’t stop this feeling – Justin Timberlake, Love Myself – Hailee Steinfeld, The Greatest – Sia.
- When all else fails and you really need perspective on things, write a gratitude list. You’ll immediately focus on how much you really have, the beauty that’s all around you, and be present in the moment.
What are your self-care go to’s?