Have you ever grasped too high with a goal or tried to change your habits too drastically only to fail? It’s quite likely you also wanted that change to happen NOW, right away – no waiting! Most of us do it regularly, remember your New Year’s resolutions? How are those going?
We try to bite off more than we can chew with our goals or changing our habits; we set the goal and then neglect to figure out the HOW behind it – that systematic plan of how we’re going to get there.
As one of my goals this year, I decided to commit myself to an 8 month fashion cleanse in order to aid in my debt repayment. I had hoped I would be able to take the extra money I normally spent on clothes and put it toward debt repayment. That would be the logical, financially minded thing to do, right?
Of course it is.
Unfortunately, it has been like asking me not to go to Starbucks. I swear I was suffering from fashion withdrawal, which only made me crave fashion more. I did it without a proper plan or understanding that cutting myself off cold turkey from fashion would be a bad idea. The longer you cut yourself off from something, the more you want it.
No one ever likes to admit failure but I believe it’s important to recognize failure, why it happened, learn from it and try your best to change. No one is perfect, right?
What prompted this post and the revelation that I failed? I bought clothes in January then I bought a $700 purse in February, that was the real kicker. I also had a few comments from readers and fellow bloggers suggesting I should rethink my plan, and rightfully so after spending $700 on a bag in a month that had no budget allocation for clothes. For the eight months, I had expected to spend absolutely nothing each month on clothing. FAIL.
“Michelle-gentle observation with NO JUDGEMENT…I’m not really sure you’re doing a fashion cleanse. Maybe you’re just doing a shopping slow down which is JUST FINE!! LoL! “
“ I guess the one area my finances really get a break is fashion. I have very little interest in fancy fashion and anything from Target and Kohl’s is fine with me. It’s not that I don’t think it’s pretty and admire it. I LOVE the fashion on shows like Revenge and love the dresses they where, but it doesn’t give me any kind of temptation. I have a $20 purse which I’ve had a couple years where the handles are scruffy, but it’s fine with me. I think my one area of weakness is food. I don’t buy cheap food. 🙂 I think we all have our “thing.””
Admitting this failure and only two months into it, is disappointing to me. I could only last two months before caving to the fashion demon. It is similar to cutting things out of your diet completely. Cut off one thing too much and you end up bingeing and purging. Sure, equating spending money on fashion to bingeing on sweets might not be exactly the same thing but when it comes to how your brain works, it is the same. I think I just equated my fashion fetish to an eating disorder….oh dear.
Bottom line = The fashion cleanse is a FAIL.
Some of you might be saying, wait a minute! You’re only in your third month and you’re considering it a fail!? You still have five months left!
Okay, so all is not lost! Remember my Financial Mottos? There are two key things on that wonderful manifesto:
“Designer does not equal debt” – This means no new debt, conscious spending!
“Budgeting is a journey of learning, willpower and determination” – As long as I learn and win some of the battles, I am much further ahead than if I didn’t try.
Even though in my mind this is a fail, it is not a huge one. Reason being is, I’ve learned. I’ve further developed my eye for conscious spending and choosing items that yes, may be more expensive, but are investment pieces that will offer a return on investment and last much longer. You could say I’m like Thomas Edison, just with more style…I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways how not to do a fashion cleanse.
Here’s to keeping my fashion spending within livable means for the next five months!
When is the last time you admitted a fail? Did you learn from it?
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