Ok, so I’m not a snowflake but I am unique, all of us are, otherwise it would be a VERY BORING world out there. When I’m feeling a bit underwhelmed with my life and doing the no no of comparing myself to others, I remind myself that I am a unique individual – we all are. And no, this does not come packaged with a sense of entitlement or feeling I am better than others ala Special Snowflake Syndrome, I am nothing of the sort. We all get a little downtrodden at times when everyone else’s life appears to be going better than ours; notice I said, “appears”. What we think we see on the outside looking in is never really the reality that is there. In all fairness, the other 90% of the time, I’m very happy for people that have lives that I would like to emulate one day.
It was my 38th birthday this past weekend (thank you for the well wishes!) and as I nudge closer to Cougarville at 40, I get a bit antsier about my goals and where I want to be in life. More importantly, what kind of woman I want to be. Sounds like procrastination is my friend, eh? Leave it to the last minute, down to the wire and its full steam ahead, instead of doing it all gradually.
This year I had the opportunity to get all dressed up and go to a nice restaurant in Port Credit on Lake Ontario. Even though it was only ten degrees, it didn’t stop me from putting on a girly dress and heels and feeling like a princess for an evening.
Throughout the night, I talked with my family about how far I’ve come, regrets, accomplishments, friends, and where I want to be. It always amazes me that when you strive for more in life you usually end up outgrowing most of your friends – sad but true.
Getting Where I Want to Be: Putting the Focus Back on Finances
One of my key aims these past few years has been to break the nasty cycle of debt and living paycheck to paycheck. I’m happy to say that I’ve broken the paycheck to paycheck problem and the debt is next to go…slowly but surely.
Financially free and financially comfortable is my goal, my number one priority. The opposite that I’ve been for most of my life. To achieve this, I need to be focused and have a career/job where I can excel and enjoy life and what I do.
How to Focus?
- Avoid any new debt. Focus on the abundance I do have in life and remove the want for anything more.
- Keep adding to my emergency fund and no withdrawals unless it’s a legit emergency!
- As a singleton, my needs are really quite minimal and I must focus on frugality with groceries and social outings. By keeping my meals more basic, I can truly economize. Ie. Chicken and veggies, fruits for snacks, nothing too fancy.
- Focus on career/job change – the happier I am at what I do each day will allow me to excel and bring home a better pay check.
- Keep the creative aspects in my life and add a new habit back each month. The key is slowly here! I’ve recently mastered adding exercise and healthy eating back into my life, it’s time to focus on writing regularly and my photography. I’ll be taking one random picture each day and I’ll do a roundup each week/month, we’ll see how time consuming it proves to be.
There are times in our lives where we all have a tendency to flounder, we lack direction and momentum, but eventually all things come back into order as they must and we refocus our efforts.
“Warning: If you are reading this then this warning is for you. Every word you read of this useless fine print is another second off your life. Don’t you have other things to do? Is your life so empty that you honestly can’t think of a better way to spend these moments? Or are you so impressed with authority that you give respect and credence to all that claim it? Do you read everything you’re supposed to read? Do you think every thing you’re supposed to think? Buy what you’re told to want? Get out of your apartment. Meet a member of the opposite sex. Stop the excessive shopping and masturbation. Quit your job. Start a fight. Prove you’re alive. If you don’t claim your humanity you will become a statistic. You have been warned.” ~~ Fight Club