It has been a crazy week. I wanted to post this on Friday but we had a freak-freezing rainstorm in Toronto (north of Toronto) and were without power all day Friday. There was an inch of ice on my car! As all of you know from my last post, my maternal grandmother passed away on Saturday, she was 91. She had a stroke in her sleep and although she was alive when found in the morning; her left side was completely paralyzed. Within a few days, she passed. I picked my parents up from the airport this week and they will be off again today for the funeral. I have never been to the airport so many times when I am not traveling anywhere! I have been trying to fill my days with work, social media updates and trying to write posts for this blog. It has not been working so well.
Have you ever noticed that you use other people’s lives as a mile marker for your own? I do. I get so absorbed in social media that I forget myself and think everyone else is better at life than I am. There is probably someone out there thinking I am better at life than they are, how ironic is that?
What is my point? Do not judge your life by another’s life. Who says I have to live by your rules? Too many of us conform; too many of us think that X + Y = Z.
My mother has been distraught over the fact that she cannot cry for her mother’s death. She asks, “What is wrong with me? Why can’t I cry?”
My reply? There is no rule, no written law stating that you have to cry. Everyone handles death and grief differently and at different times. You will cry when you are ready to. Stop worrying about why you cannot cry.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we spend our lives benchmarking ourselves against others?