Do I hafta change my name back?
It’s about time you procrastinator.
I had thought I was resigned to the fact I would keep my ex’s last name but something in my brain tells me it has to go. For just over three years, I have carried around my ex’s last name and it’s about bloody well time I changed it back. Next month I will be four years divorced and it is time to re-assume my name. Some people don’t do it after they divorce and that’s fine but for me, it feels like I’ve been dragging around baggage with the name. Strange as it may sound, it’s the truth. Call it a moving on/moving past type of thing. The frustrating reason why I have procrastinated so long is that changing your name requires strategy and careful thought. Who knew right?
I’ve been avoiding this small nightmare as it means I have to carefully plan the name change around any travel or financial changes. Any travel I have booked MUST be completed before I change it and I cannot book any travel until I get the whole thing completed. It also means I will incur some extra dings to the budget, the largest being $160 for a completely new passport. Does that make me cranky? Hell yes! I think it is downright awful that you have to attain a completely new passport and pay for it all over again when you still have nine years left on a ten-year passport. Ahem. Note to self: decide on name change before renewing passport.
Thankfully, because I did not legally change my name and only assumed my ex’s name, it’s a fairly easy process to re-assume my birth name without too much cost attached. In Ontario, we are quite lucky as many of the government services have amalgamated under Service Ontario. This means only one form to complete and one office to visit for most of my government issued ID. Pretty sweet!
What Needs a Name Change?
All financial institutions – bank accounts, credit cards, loans etc. – 5 in all. Oh, joy.
All Loyalty programs
I have found there is a method to the madness in doing this or it all falls down. DL and Health Card have to be done first, and then all others can be completed because everyone else needs to see your updated DL. *shakes head* #canigohomenow
The Financial Impact
Minimal. Just the way I like it.
In all reality, the financial impact is very minimal. The only item I have to pay for is my passport. The thing I will be super happy about is that the credit reporting agencies will put me at the right address again – I hope. I’ve mailed, faxed and e-chatted and still people want me living at my ex’s address…no idea. *shakes head again*
Who knew I would come back from a week of volunteering and come to this decision? LOL. Strange how life works sometimes. Yes, that’s where I have disappeared to and why I missed Monday’s post, I was thoroughly exhausted from a week of volunteering at the Rogers Cup. I am a Team Captain and though it can be motivating to work with the other volunteers in a different capacity, it has a lot of added responsibility, which can be draining.
I am actually excited about changing my name back. It’s almost akin to starting over again or at the very least, the last phase in my reinvention and rediscovering myself. It’ll be at least another month before I can change it but no time than the present to prep and get the forms filled out.
What are your thoughts? Would you re-assume your birth surname? On the other hand, would you have even assumed your husband’s name when you married?
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