I am of the mind that when people make fun of certain aspects of your life, it’s usually because they are jealous that they can’t have a similar lifestyle. This past weekend we had a girl’s night out which we haven’t had in a long time and I was very much looking forward to the social time. We’re a Sex and the City type of group with varying degrees of relationship and life stages, some with kids, boyfriend/no boyfriend. So it was a bit painful when they decided to berate me for a total of 10 minutes at varying points in the night over my expenditure on a purse. I suppose it’s what your best gal pals are supposed to do – keep you in line when they think you’re getting a bit out of control. Maybe?
Sadly, what they fail to see is that my lifestyle is very different from theirs and I made it a point to remind them of that. I have no house, no significant other, no kids and in all reality no significant responsibilities in life except to pay the bills I do have and keep myself alive (and the cat too).
Would I spend $675 on a purse if I had kids? Of course not!
Would I spend $675 on a purse if I had a house? Probably not!
Will I ever have a house if I keep spending $675 on purses? Heck NO!
It’s important to note that when the time comes, I would be willing to sacrifice all these things for children, houses, etc. If children came into my life, they would be my priority and there would be no more spending on expensive purses. In all reality, I do not spend $675 on a purse every year, the reason I make the investment is precisely that, it’s an investment to last me several years – five I’m hoping! Take that $675, divided by 5 years, is $135 a year, which equals the two very cheap $65 purses that they would buy. Believe me; I got the “I spent $60 on this purse rubbed in”. Do the math and we’re spending the same money if they buy two of those purses a year and mine lasts for five.
I’m saddened and disappointed that they chose to berate me about spending $675 on a purse instead of be supportive and advise me to choose other less expensive options or to actually ask me why I spent that much. I suppose tact is not everyone’s forte.
Bottom line, friends should be there to support you not berate you.
The whole episode brings up an interesting point, they all know that I am on a budget and trying to pay off debt, and that spending $675 on a purse should not factor into the equation at all when you’re on a budget.
Why is it that we equate “budget” with spend no money at all?
Yes, I agree that you have to be strict and focused with your debt repayment, but depending on your income, you still need some “fun” money or you will lose your mind. Am I wrong? If I were endlessly spending on books, movies, restaurant outings AND fashion, then we would have a serious problem, but I’m not. The irony of the whole thing is that one of my friends noted that her BF spends $350 a month on fast food! EEEK! Then proceeded to ask me to teach him budgeting. Hmmmm…
Are your friends judgemental about purchases you’ve made? Do you think I’m being too hard on my friends?
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